When people walk around the hallways of wherever you work or go to classes, or wherever you hang out where you're around your peers, acquaintances-most especially friends or family are, change the way that you act because the way you are around some people differ from how you act around others, a lot of the time people think they know what they see and they never really check with the person to know or figure out what's going on unless they care about that person.
There've been times I would've been the kind of person you could go to as an RA or a Peer Mentor, or some leadership person of a school, times change when things got hard for me, then people spread a lot of talk about how you are being. I think people need to realize that we're all human, sometimes the perfect sweet young, nice woman they see gets a bit confused, but that doesn't mean that they become anymore dramatic, it's really how you're perceiving that person, and if you really are looking at that person, things aren't as exaggerated as you'd expect. But people would rather look at surface appearances than realize what's going on.
I think it's insulting when people do all this big talk about you being crazy when you're having a hard time, how would you deal with something like that? Here you are, doing whatever you can to live life without going to a counselor, or just do things in a way that helps you at least function well enough to get through, and people just judge...I mean really? Why people waste their energy talking about people like that...I mean, come on-I realize you have some jiff about that person, but you're just complaining-why couldn't you keep your mouth shut?
Ignorance isn't a great thing, most of us act like we know it all, we don't look around at each other nearly enough to realize what's going on unless it's with a significant other, so I think some of us should take it easy.
Sweet mother of God...Finals, what a glorious time that is...You know, during those weeks people have a tendency to be a bit more tense...Sometimes you gotta say to yourself, you know what? I bet this person is just stressed out from everything and just needs to calm down or be talked to, or something, then they'll loosen up somehow later, that or realize quicker when you're being a douche to people you care about, or realize when you're wrong and do something about it, sometimes sorry isn't enough, so you'll have to do more, but it's worth it.
Remember how you treat others when times are hard...These days I've noticed some people are more quick to jump the gun about how they treat someone else when they're going through their day and they don't realize what they're doing unless they've already done it. Sometimes, you're like that kind of person for years and after awhile you can't just keep saying sorry, you tend to get used to the way you can be and don't change unless you decide to, people get used to the way you are, then react differently once you do start changing.
Personally, I'm probably going to change a lot as a person inbetween now and when I'm 30, and then the person that I'm going to be between 30 and 45 probably won't change that much unless a lot of hard times come around for me. So instead of telling people of how I am or who I am all I can tell them are my likes and dislikes, that I am really mood based and will do practically anything based on the mood I'm in at the moment. Nothing much else than that unless someone would like to know my personal history. It's like what I would say to my cousins, considering that they're growing up, I will only tell them what they should know about me depending on whether or not I feel like they're ready to understand the kind of person that I am. I'm not concrete, but I'm not a bad person. Other people that are really straight edged can have a scewed view because they haven't gone through what others have gone through.
It's sad to know my family thinks less of me because they don't approve of what I do just because they don't see the purpose that it serves. I didn't want to be the kind of person that judges someone based on whether or not they look like a good person or act like one, I'd rather get to know that person and their habits. While it's still very difficult not to fall back on the kind of thinking that I grew up with, I've seen a lot of changes in myself and I'm glad I don't belittle others as much as I used to because I've met some very cool people. Some do things that I don't approve of, but that's their prerogative.
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